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佼佼者 发表于 2022-11-24 17:45:37

不能体面分手的原因，只有一个

<p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;">一则</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; font-weight: 700 !important; font-size: inherit !important;">#汪小菲：我他妈的不想再给这个家付电费了#</span></span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;">的微博，冲上了热搜第一。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;">直至现在，讨论热度依然居高不下。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;">最开始，汪小菲发了一段怒气十足的控诉，甚至爆料说大S不给自己看望孩子。微博还附上了离婚后为大S家所支出的费用账单：</span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"></span><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;">事件发酵后，他又在评论区补了一段话，疑似讽刺大S的现任丈夫具俊晔：</span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;">而后，大S的妈妈也借媒体迅速作出了回应。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;">但面对徐妈妈的回应，汪小菲似乎没有停熄战火的意思。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;">而是接着更新了多条微博，继续控诉了台媒、徐妈妈本人以及小S。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;">并表示：</span></p><blockquote style="margin: 8px 0px; padding: 0px 0px 0px 16px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; border-left: 4px solid rgb(153, 153, 153); color: rgb(153, 153, 153); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;">自己马上就去要回孩子的抚养权。</span></p></blockquote><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; font-weight: inherit;"></span></span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; font-weight: inherit;"></span></span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;">孰是孰非，其实外人不得而知。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;">但自从汪小菲和大S离婚后，这已经不是他们第一次公开“互撕”。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;">每一次都火药味十足，事情也总会反转再反转。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;">有人说：</span></p><blockquote style="margin: 8px 0px; padding: 0px 0px 0px 16px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; border-left: 4px solid rgb(153, 153, 153); color: rgb(153, 153, 153); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;">“不就是离婚嘛，至于闹成这样吗？”</span></p></blockquote><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;">也有人觉得，只不过因为他们是明星，所以才闹得这么大。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;">或许，这样的例子并不多见。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;">但，只要提起离婚或者前任，大多数人的情绪可能都是消极的：辜负、背叛、出轨、欺骗、争吵、威胁、跟踪、泼脏水、被分手、暴力或冷暴力......</span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; font-weight: 700 !important; font-size: inherit !important;">明明在一起时那么美好，为什么分开后，大多数亲密关系都会落得狼狈不堪的下场？</span></span></p><h1 style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; font-size: 24px; font-weight: normal; line-height: 1.5; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); text-align: center;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; font-weight: 700 !important; font-size: inherit !important;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; font-weight: 700 !important; font-size: inherit !important;">01</span></span></h1><h1 style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; font-size: 24px; font-weight: normal; line-height: 1.5; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); text-align: center;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; font-weight: 700 !important; font-size: inherit !important;">不能体面分手的原因，只有一个</span></span></h1><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; font-weight: 700 !important; font-size: inherit !important;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;">记得《前任3》大火的时候，大家都听过一首歌叫《体面》，里面有一句：“离开也很体面，才没辜负这些年”。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;">然而，偏偏很多人都无法体面分手，只因俩字：</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; font-weight: 700 !important; font-size: inherit !important;">不甘</span></span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;">。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;">之前看过一档国外的综艺节目，其中有一集是讲小 K和小L分手后的对话。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;">对谈内容令人窒息。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;">小 K 被前任小 L 伤害后，选择纠缠质问。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;">他们分手，是因为小 L 带别的女孩回家且被小 K 撞见，屡次认错，依旧不改。</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;">最后，小 L 提出分手，小 K 则把自己关在房间里哭个不停。</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;">被甩的小 K 很想找他面对面谈清楚，“你当时为什么要出轨”。她一直在反思自己做错了什么，“我有什么比不上小三，她哪里比我好？”</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;">但，身为男生的小 L 并不这么想，他觉得：</span></p><blockquote style="margin: 8px 0px; padding: 0px 0px 0px 16px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; border-left: 4px solid rgb(153, 153, 153); color: rgb(153, 153, 153); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;">“如果你不能接受我有第三者，直接跟我分手就好了，干嘛一直缠着我？”</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span></p></blockquote><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"></span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;">小L不知道，此时的小K已经无法确定自己的价值了。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;">心理学家艾丽卡·斯洛特认为，</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; font-weight: 700 !important; font-size: inherit !important;">亲密关系是自我定义核心的成分之一</span></span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;">。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;">恋爱，是从 “我” 到 “我们” 的过程，亲密伴侣的生活是相互交织，密不可分的，具有高相互一致性，自我延伸性。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; font-weight: 700 !important; font-size: inherit !important;">这段关系结束后，自我概念也要随之改变 —— 从 “我们” 到 “我”，是一个令人失落和痛苦的过程，有可能会令人丧失自我认同感，所以不断怀疑自己。</span></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; font-weight: 700 !important; font-size: inherit !important;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span></span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;">是不是因为我吸引力不够，所以他才会去找别人？</span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;">我到底值不值得被爱？他为什么会这样对我......</span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;">为这样的恋情付出了那么多，我就像是一个傻瓜。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;">与此同时，被分手一方的痛苦，往往超过主动提分手的一方。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;">日本学者福冈伸一认为，他们分泌的类固醇会导致血压上升，心跳加速，更容易感受到心脏疼痛。</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;">比如，连续哭个几天，毫无食欲，不想出门，连起床刷牙这样很简单的小事，都仿佛要用尽全力才能做到。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; font-weight: 700 !important; font-size: inherit !important;">恋爱时一起计划未来的家和生活时有多甜蜜，失恋后想起来就有多揪心。</span></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; font-weight: 700 !important; font-size: inherit !important;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span></span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;">冰箱里吃过一半的剩饭，浴室里还剩小半瓶的沐浴露，不经意多买的一双筷子...... 统统都在提醒你，你已经失去了一个最熟悉的人了。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;">当你遭受这种失落，痛苦的体验，就可能会产生震惊、否认、愤怒等情绪，甚至特别不甘心。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span></p><blockquote style="margin: 8px 0px; padding: 0px 0px 0px 16px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; border-left: 4px solid rgb(153, 153, 153); color: rgb(153, 153, 153); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;">“为什么痛苦的人偏偏是我？”</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;">“为什么他依旧可以很开心？”</span></p></blockquote><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;">如此不停地反复比较，反刍过去的痛苦记忆，越陷越深，走不出来。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; font-weight: 700 !important; font-size: inherit !important;">与其说是深陷失恋的痛苦，不如说你想要一个答案，一个符合自己期待的回答。</span></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; font-weight: 700 !important; font-size: inherit !important;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span></span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;">所以，一年后，小 K 又找到了小 L，继续纠缠出轨的问题。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;">小 L 并不想聊下去，因为上一个视频发出去后，很多人骂他渣男，诅咒他去死。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;">他觉得，小 K 把所有锅都推到自己身上，不公平，这次他要洗白自己。</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;">但没讲两句，他就跟小 K 就吵起来了：</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span></p><blockquote style="margin: 8px 0px; padding: 0px 0px 0px 16px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; border-left: 4px solid rgb(153, 153, 153); color: rgb(153, 153, 153); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;">“我真的希望你能放下过去，因为我已经说了不想继续，你还是会缠着我。”</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span></p></blockquote><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></p><blockquote style="margin: 8px 0px; padding: 0px 0px 0px 16px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; border-left: 4px solid rgb(153, 153, 153); color: rgb(153, 153, 153); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;">“我根本没跟你在一起过（是你一厢情愿）。”</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span></p></blockquote><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></p><blockquote style="margin: 8px 0px; padding: 0px 0px 0px 16px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; border-left: 4px solid rgb(153, 153, 153); color: rgb(153, 153, 153); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;">“你让大家觉得我很坏，自己装什么受害者呢？”</span></p></blockquote><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"></span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;">小 K 不可置信地看着曾经熟悉的爱人，深呼吸，结束了这场谈话。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;">她以为，因为你出轨伤到我，所以应当是你理亏，你被我报复是应该的。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;">然而，她未曾料到，男友会觉得自己才是受害者，是小 K 亏欠了他，理直气壮地觉得自己才是对的。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;">俩人都心有不甘，以至于这场分手大战没完没了。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></p><h1 style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; font-size: 24px; font-weight: normal; line-height: 1.5; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); text-align: center;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; font-weight: 700 !important; font-size: inherit !important;">02</span></span></h1><h1 style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; font-size: 24px; font-weight: normal; line-height: 1.5; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); text-align: center;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; font-weight: 700 !important; font-size: inherit !important;">体面分手，才是对爱情最大的尊重</span></span><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></h1><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; font-weight: 700 !important; font-size: inherit !important;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;">有这么一对情侣，他们在Youtube上直播分手的过程和感悟，让5000万人直接泪崩：</span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; font-weight: 700 !important; font-size: inherit !important;">这可能是我见过最体面的分手。</span></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; font-weight: 700 !important; font-size: inherit !important;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;">Liza 和 David 曾经是一对网红情侣，粉丝将近 3000 万，每天都在撒狗粮。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;">一起去看夜景，第一次接吻，经常恶搞对方，像个孩子一样撒娇发傻......</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;">后来工作越来越忙，他们发现，自己对彼此人生的参与程度越来越低。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;">明明当初那么幸福甜蜜，现在却时常产生分歧、吵架，这太令人难过了。</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;">但是，他们没有没有相互抱怨恋爱中谁出了问题，谁又欠了自己多少青春。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;">视频一开始，David 就开玩笑说，</span></p><blockquote style="margin: 8px 0px; padding: 0px 0px 0px 16px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; border-left: 4px solid rgb(153, 153, 153); color: rgb(153, 153, 153); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;">“Liza 绿了我，她居然同时跟七个男人约会！”</span></p></blockquote><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;">两人笑着打打闹闹，宣布说，</span></p><blockquote style="margin: 8px 0px; padding: 0px 0px 0px 16px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; border-left: 4px solid rgb(153, 153, 153); color: rgb(153, 153, 153); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;">“6 个月前我们分手了。”</span></p></blockquote><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;">Liza 突然就哭了出来，David 的眼眶也红了，下意识想去拥抱她，然后默默又收回了手。</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;">David 说，Liza是他遇到过的最好的女孩，你根本没法从她身上找到缺点。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span></p><blockquote style="margin: 8px 0px; padding: 0px 0px 0px 16px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; border-left: 4px solid rgb(153, 153, 153); color: rgb(153, 153, 153); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;">“我们不是因为谁做错了事而分手，只是这个时间，我们还太年轻。我们还有很多不足，要为了自己而学习，成长，去爱。”</span></p></blockquote><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;">之所以说这是分手教科书，是因为他们的分手实在是太和平了。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;">他们一直在夸对方身上有多少好处，安慰对方情绪，像好朋友一样互相开玩笑。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;">David一直在解释，Liza 提分手，是因为自己没有勇气，没有做先开口的那个人而已；</span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;">Liza表示David真的没做过对不起她的事情，他真的很可靠。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;">视频结束的时候，两个人又恢复了之前那种玩闹的气氛，David 亲了 Liza 一下：“我爱你”。</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;">至今，点击数已超过 5000 万，无数人说，自己根本不认识他们，却都跟着一起哭了。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;">无论是小 K和小L，还是Liza和 David，不难发现，很多时候，我们都把注意力集中在 “追求” ，却忘记了 “丧失” 也是需要仪式感的。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; font-weight: 700 !important; font-size: inherit !important;">所谓的仪式感，就是双方冷静下来，好好谈清楚，说明白自己的想法，放过自己，也放过前任。</span></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; font-weight: 700 !important; font-size: inherit !important;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span></span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;">谈好之后，你的内心才能重获平静，告诉自己：</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; font-weight: 700 !important; font-size: inherit !important;">“是时候要 move on 了。”</span></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; font-weight: 700 !important; font-size: inherit !important;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span></span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;">尽管这个过程艰难又漫长，但就像 Liza 说的：</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; font-weight: 700 !important; font-size: inherit !important;">“总会熬过去的。”</span></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></p><h1 style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; font-size: 24px; font-weight: normal; line-height: 1.5; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); text-align: center;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; font-weight: 700 !important; font-size: inherit !important;">03</span></span></h1><h1 style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; font-size: 24px; font-weight: normal; line-height: 1.5; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); text-align: center;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; font-weight: 700 !important; font-size: inherit !important;">分手后，如何从感情的丧失中走出来？</span></span></h1><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; font-weight: 700 !important; font-size: inherit !important;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;">很多人分手后，觉得自己应该马上好起来，逼着自己去转移注意力。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;">不停找朋友聊天，立即辞职出门旅游，没日没夜打游戏......</span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;">但越是这样，越没法让内心释怀。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;">因为，心理学上，处理分手和处理丧失创伤是一个道理。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; font-weight: 700 !important; font-size: inherit !important;">不要急求着自己好起来，而是允许自己痛苦，允许自己丧一段时间，直面内心的感受。</span></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; font-weight: 700 !important; font-size: inherit !important;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span></span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;">有句很丧气的话，</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; font-weight: 700 !important; font-size: inherit !important;">“既然跌倒了，那就在坑里躺一会儿”。</span></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; font-weight: 700 !important; font-size: inherit !important;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span></span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;">挺有道理的。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;">韩国有部真人秀《无确幸》，几乎是所有分手情侣创伤修复后的最佳良药。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;">节目里有个被分手的单身大叔李尚敏，生意破产后，妻子把他告上法庭，原因是诈骗婚前财产。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;">离婚 13 年，欠债 7 亿。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;">为了还债，他连续好几年 24 小时连轴转，只有在节目和节目的间隙，才能抓紧时间睡觉。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;">不敢谈，没时间谈新的恋爱，每天就靠咖啡吊着一口气。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;">就算想偶尔出门吃顿好的，一个人感觉也没什么好去的。</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;">单身日子过久了，便当也吃腻了，他开始寻思：“究竟在什么时候，我才会觉得开心？”</span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; font-weight: 700 !important; font-size: inherit !important;">幸福，似乎是恋爱时才有的感受，却忘了，一个人生活，也应该拾起这份幸福感。</span></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; font-weight: 700 !important; font-size: inherit !important;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span></span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;">于他而言，找到好吃的酱料，尝试新口味，是幸福感最强的时候。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;">他可以连续开上几小时的车，期间一直被成员们无情嘲笑，也要坚持去找酱料，激动得像个找到宝藏的孩子。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;">这就是他当前最感兴趣的，最支撑他走得下去的小确幸。</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; font-weight: 700 !important; font-size: inherit !important;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span></span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; font-weight: 700 !important; font-size: inherit !important;">所以，当你经历了分手的痛苦，也允许悲伤自由流动之后，尝试去寻找那份被自己遗忘的幸福感吧，那种即使独自生活，也能支撑自己继续往前走的力量。</span></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; color: rgb(68, 68, 68); font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; font-weight: 700 !important; font-size: inherit !important;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span></span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;">或许，你会从自己喜欢的事情中获得满足感，从让自己收获满满成就感的事情中感受到：</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; font-weight: 700 !important; font-size: inherit !important;">分手，不等于你整个人都被否定，只是让你按下暂停键，让你有个思考的空档而已。</span></span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; font-weight: 700 !important; font-size: inherit !important;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1;"/></span></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; zoom: 1; 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饭岛爱是女的 发表于 2022-11-27 12:09:37

你站在这别动，我去买几个橘子给你吧

爱悄然离线 发表于 2022-12-1 17:08:19

蒙太奇手法，高

风信子816 发表于 2022-12-2 21:57:21

雷锋做了好事不留名，但是每一件事情都记到日记里面。

专业家 发表于 2022-12-6 02:46:25

心定即是归处。

落花酱酱 发表于 2022-12-10 16:06:59

心定即是归处。

@Xizi_ZJviICKr 发表于 2022-12-12 13:38:28

聚是一团火，散是满天星。

悠叶悠528 发表于 2022-12-14 16:10:22

我们为自己的梦而活，不为流言而存在。

雨虹 发表于 2022-12-23 15:01:30

我怀疑楼主用的是金山快译且额外附带了中对中翻译。

有谁懂我 发表于 2023-1-2 04:21:10

心定即是归处。

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